Secrets | Descriptions |
abortion | Had an abortion |
ambition | Kept a secret ambition, secret plan, or secret goal for yourself. |
belief/ideology | Kept a belief secret (for example, political views, religious views, views about social groups, prejudice). |
counternormative | An unusual behavior (unrelated to *any* of the other categories). |
drug use | Used illegal drugs, OR abused / addicted to a legal drug (e.g., alcohol, painkillers). |
emotional infidelity | Committed *emotional* infidelity (NOT involving actual sexual infidelity), for example, having an inappropriate emotional connection with someone, or engaging in something other than sex, such as flirting, kissing, etc. |
employment | Kept secret a job or employment that you have (or school activity). |
extra-relational thoughts | Thought about having relations with another person (while already in a relationship). |
family detail | Have you ever kept a detail about your family secret. |
finances | Keep secret details about finances (or amount of money you have). |
habit/addiction | Had a habit or addiction (but NOT involving drugs). |
hidden relationship | Have you ever hid a current relationship, or keep a past relationship secret. |
hobby | Have you ever hid a hobby or possession. |
illegal | Engaged in something illegal (other than drugs or stealing). |
lack sex | Kept secret a lack of having sex (i.e., that you are not, or were not, having sex at some point). |
lie | Have lied to someone. |
marriage proposal | Planning to propose marriage. |
mental health | Had mental health issues, or dissatisfied with something about yourself other than physical appearance (for example, fears, anxieties, depression, mental disorders, eating disorders). |
other woman/man | At some point was in a relationship with someone who themselves actually had a partner (that is, the person was cheating on their partner -- with you). |
other-harm | Hurt another person (for example, emotionally or physically hurt someone), and kept this secret from someone else. |
personal story | A specific story you keep a secret (unrelated to *any* of the other categories). |
physical discontent | Dissatisfied with something physical about yourself |
poor work performance | Performing poorly at work (or school). |
preference | Kept secret a preference for something (for example, not liking something that people think you like, or liking something people do not know you like). |
pregnant | While pregnant didn't tell some people. |
romantic desire | Had romantic desires about someone (while being single) for example, a crush, in love with someone, wanting relations with a specific person... while being single. |
romantic discontent | Unhappy in a romantic relationship. |
self-harm | Physically harmed yourself. |
sexual infidelity | Committed *sexual* infidelity (engaged in sexual relations with someone who was not your partner). |
sexual orientation | Concealed your sexual orientation / gender identity. |
sexual behavior | Sexual behavior that you keep secret (other than sexual orientation, for example, porn, masturbation, fantasies, unusual sexual behavior, etc). |
social discontent | Dislike a friend, or unhappy with current social life. |
surprise | Planning a surprise for someone (other than a marriage proposal). |
theft | Stolen something from someone or some place. |
trauma | Had a traumatic experience (other than the above). |
violate trust | Violated someone's trust (but NOT by a lie) for example, by snooping, revealing information about someone, breaking or losing something that belongs to someone without telling them, etc). |
work cheating | Cheated or did something improper at work (or school), or having lied to get a job (or into a school). |
work discontent | Dissatisfied with your situation at work (or school). |