As the daughters of baby boomer moms approach womanhood the questions begin. Will I teach my daughter the right things? How do I correct the mistakes my mother made with me?
Mother Daughter Revolution: From Betrayal to Power addresses all the issues that a mother guiding a budding woman could possibly need to know about. Authors Elizabeth Debold, Marie Wilson, and Idelisse Malave approach these dilemmas as would any other mother who is concerned with the survival of her daughter in a male-dominant society would. The book centers on women's attempts to build trusting relationships with their daughters. The foundation of this trust is based on removing the feeling of betrayal that develops when daughters feel that their mothers have not prepared them for the earthshaking changes they experience during adolescence. Lack of preparation for these changes leads to a lack of confidence and an inability to deal with competition.
Mother Daughter Revolution is written in a problem and solution style and describes the path from adolescence to womanhood through identifiable stories and anecdotes. Many mothers recount stories of being told by their mothers to "be nice" because "nice girls get married and get good things." Well, these new mothers opt to tell their daughters that ³being nice² is not always an option, especially if "being nice" infringes upon their rights.
With this book as a guide, today's feminist mom is not just preparing her daughter for the male competition. She is also arming her with the ammunition needed to break the glass ceiling and combat inequalities. According to the authors, little girls are taught to avoid conflict and confrontation while little boys are taught to resolve conflicts. However, conflicts and confrontations are major parts of the world we live in. As such, if we do not teach our daughters how to survive in our male dominant world we do them and ourselves an injustice. Little girls should be taught that their worth does not lie in their outward appearance and manners but in their brain power.
The concept of stabilizing the mother-daughter relationship through recognition of a daughter's self-worth, competitive potential, and academic confidence are noble ones. This is good reading for mothers, daughters, fathers, and sons.