Ghazal 42, Verse 5

{42,5}

shikvah-sanj-e rashk-e ham-diigar nah rahnaa chaahiye
meraa zaanuu muunis aur aa))iinah teraa aashnaa

1) we ought not to keep on reciting complaints of mutual jealousy
2) my knees-- a companion; and the mirror-- your friend

Notes:

mu))nis : 'Solacing, consoling, cheering; --s.m. A sociable companion; an intimate friend; a solacer, consoler'. (Platts p.1095)

Nazm:

That is, you constantly remain absorbed in the mirror, and I don't complain; and if I constantly sit with my head on my knees, then don't you take it amiss. Poets always use the mirror as a simile for the knees. (40)

== Nazm page 40

Bekhud Dihlavi:

He says, jealousy and suspicion are both creators of displeasure. We two ought to ignore both those disasters. Because the knees are my friend, I always have my head on my knees. And the mirror is your friend, you're always absorbed in it. You ought not to complain, nor ought I to take it amiss. (78-79)

Bekhud Mohani:

Janab Shaukat [makes the objection that] the beloved absolutely never feels jealousy of the way Ghalib's head rests on his knees; thus, some other word should be used.

[I reply that] although the beloved's jealousy is not as famous and well-established as the lover's, the world is not devoid of such examples.... [A]lthough the beloved herself is not kind, she finds no rest from the suspicion-- after all, love for whom has made him into a picture of grief, and about whom is he always thinking? (97-98)

Faruqi:

[Cited for comparison in the discussion of {71,2}.]

FWP:

SETS
MIRROR: {8,3}

Here an unusual degree of symmetry is set up between the lover and the beloved-- at least, at first glance. For one thing, they are envisioned as mutually jealous of each other. This does sound strange, in ghazal terms, but I think Bekhud Mohani has explained it well. The beloved too can be-- at least sometimes, and at least in her own way-- exceptionally possessive about the lover's attention, and suspicious of his attentions to others.

For more on the role of the knees [zaanuu] in sitting (on the ground), see {32,2}.

The interest here lies, as it does so often, in the relationship between the two lines. Is the information in the second line the cause of the jealousy, or its cure?

On the 'cause' reading, which all the commentators adopt, the beloved is jealous of the lover's knees, since he always sits hunched over, with his head down, and his eyes lowered so that his melancholy gaze is directed toward his knees. (Imagine a sort of raised-knee sitting position.) And he is jealous of her mirror, since her eyes are always obsessively focused on it. (For more on Ghalib's use of the mirror, see {8,3}.) Each resents the other's absorption in another object of attention, even though it's not a human rival. The lover is urging an end to this jealousy-- we shouldn't think of these objects of attention as rivals, but merely as each other's comforting friends.

On the 'cure' reading, the lover and beloved have been jealously quarreling, each accusing the other of spending time with other beloveds or lovers. The lover is urging an end to this jealousy-- we should realize that in fact we don't spend time with other people. Apart from each other we spend our time alone-- I staring at my knees, you gazing into the mirror.

The latter reading has a nice modern, solipsistic edge to it, doesn't it? Which is more irritating-- a flirtatious lover, or a self-absorbed one? And ultimately, isn't a self-absorbed lover really flirting with himself/herself? (For more on the complexities of rashk , see {53,4}.)

Note for Arabic usage fans: In principle, the word is not muunis . Rather, the vaa))o is a chair for a hamzah , as in the case of jur))at . (See the spelling used in Platts.) In this case, however, the scansion is not affected either way. I've modernized the spelling just to make the screen display easier.

Compare this verse with its less fortunate, unpublished cousins, {42,7x} and {42,11x}.