Ghazal 115, Verse 7

{115,7}*

vaa;N vuh ;Guruur-e ((izz-o-naaz yaa;N yih ;hijaab-e paas-e va.z((a
raah me;N ham mile;N kahaa;N bazm me;N vuh bulaa))e kyuu;N

1) there, that pride in grandeur and coquetry; here, this shame/modesty of regard for character/dignity
2) in the road, where/how would we meet? in a gathering, why/how would she invite me?

Notes:

((izz : 'Might, greatness, grandeur, glory, dignity, majesty, excellence'. (Platts pp.760-61)

 

;hijaab : 'A veil; a curtain; --concealment; --modesty, bashfulness, shame'. (Platts p.474)

 

va.z((a : 'Placing, fixing, laying, laying down.... --situation, position; disposition; nature, tenour; description, character, complexion; --condition, state'. (Platts p.1196)

 

kyuu;N : 'Why? wherefore? how? what? well?'. (Platts p.890)

Azad:

It was the custom then [in Shah Hatim's time] among the ancient elders of Delhi, that once they had adopted something, they kept it up till their dying breath. And they called this 'maintaining one's consistency of style' [va.z((adaarii] or 'regard for style' [paas-e va.z((a]. This was a law that went right up there alongside the Shariat. Such self-imposed rules in some matters took on the character of strength of mind, and are a source of proper pride to the country and the people of the country. And in matters of petty detail they are inappropriate burdens; they do not ruin merely families and lineages, but when they become widespread they ruin the country.
==Azad: Pritchett and Faruqi, p. 109

Nazm:

The 'collecting and scattering' is disorderly [;Gair-murattib]. (124)

== Nazm page 124 [In this edition, the word ;Gair has been mistakenly omitted.]

Bekhud Dihlavi:

He says, here, there is such regard for character that we are ashamed when meeting her in the street; and there, she's so proud of her greatness and coquetry, that she is ashamed to invite us to her gathering. (175)

Bekhud Mohani:

Alas, what a difficulty we have fallen into! The beloved is proud of her honor and glory; we respect our character. To meet in the road is contrary to our glory. For her to invite me to her gathering is contrary to her glory. Note: in this verse is a picture of the situation of the beginning of love, when respect for character still remains. (234)

FWP:

SETS == HERE/THERE; KAHAN; PARALLELISM
GATHERINGS: {6,3}
INDEPENDENCE: {9,1}
ROAD: {10,12}
VEIL: {6,1}

The first line juxtaposes, without comment, a picture of things 'there' and a picture of things 'here'. There, all is 'pride' [;Guruur]-- pride in grandeur, pride in coquetry. Here, all is 'shame' or modesty [;hijaab]-- the self-respect born of one's regard for 'character', for personal style and dignity [va.z((a].

If the first line offers us 'there' with the beloved, versus 'here' with the lover, the second line offers 'in the road' versus 'in the gathering'. Just as 'there' and 'here' are opposites in every way, so both the road and the gathering prove equally, though oppositely, impossible as meeting places.

About the word va.z((a : Why can't the lover arrange to encounter his beloved 'by chance' on the public road? Perhaps because he is ashamed to play such vulgar and transparent tricks. Or perhaps because he feels that his own personal dignity won't permit such a public and one-sided pursuit of her. Or, just possibly, perhaps because he knows that her lofty sense of her personal dignity wouldn't permit her to speak to him in such a commonplace setting. Azad's account emphasizes the cultural value attached to dignity and consistency of personal style. For other treatments of the concept, see {116,8}; {126,2}; {233,3}. For a similar invocation of the requirements of 'courtesy' [adab], see {109,8x}.

And why can't the beloved invite the lover to one of her evening gatherings? Perhaps because she's too arrogant to invite such a humble person to a lofty social occasion. Or perhaps because she's too proud to admit that she actually craves his company. Or perhaps it's just that she too has her own va.z((a-daarii to consider.

What an elegant symmetry of opposites! He's too modestly dignified to shame himself by contriving to meet her on the road. She's too haughtily proud to shame herself by inviting him to a gathering. Nazm's complaint is that the symmetry is not perfectly developed: the first half of the first line corresponds to the second half of the second line, while the second half of the first line corresponds to the first half of the second line. But can't that count as symmetry of a kind? It's the symmetry, we might say, of an X.

In any case, the two will end up never seeing each other-- as the lover obviously realizes. Is he resigned? Is he despairing but determined? Does he find the whole contretemps ruefully amusing? Ghalib leaves us to decide for ourselves.

For another verse with a similar wry twist, see {126,2}; and compare also {205,4}.

Compare also Mir's evocation of the lover's stubborn pride: M{217,5}.