23. AS A HOUSEHOLDER
To set up a household
was no new experience for me. But the establishment in Natal was different
from the ones that I had had in Bombay and London. This time part of the
expense was solely for the sake of prestige. I thought it necessary to
have a household in keeping with my position as an Indian barrister in
Natal and as a representative. So I had a nice little house in a prominent
locality. It was also suitably furnished. Food was simple, but as I used
to invite English friends and Indian co-workers, the housekeeping bills
were always fairly high.
A good servant is essential
in every household. But I have never known how to keep anyone as a servant.
I had a friend as companion
and help, and a cook who had become a member of the family. I also had
office clerks boarding and lodging with me.
I think I had a fair amount
of success in this experiment, but it was not without its modicum of the
bitter experiences of life.
The companion was very clever
and, I thought, faithful to me. But in this I was deceived. He became jealous
of an office clerk who was staying with me, and wove such a tangled web
that I suspected the clerk. This clerical friend had a temper of his own.
Immediately [=As soon as] he saw that he had been the object of my suspicion,
he left both the house and the office. I was pained. I felt that perhaps
I had been unjust to him, and my conscience always stung me.
In the meanwhile, the cook needed
a few days' leave, or for some other cause was away. It was necessary to
procure another during his absence. Of this new man I learnt later that
he was a perfect scamp. But for me he proved a godsend. Within two or three
days of his arrival, he discovered certain irregularities that were going
on under my roof without my knowledge, and he made up his mind to warn
me. I had the reputation of being a credulous but straight man. The discovery
was to him, therefore, all the more shocking. Every day at one o'clock
I used to go home from office for lunch. At about twelve o'clock one day
the cook came panting to the office, and said, 'Please come home at once.
There is a surprise for you.'
'Now, what is this?' I asked.
'You must tell me what it is. How can I leave the office at this hour to
go and see it?'
'You will regret it, if you
don't come. That is all I can say.'
I felt an appeal in his persistence.
I went home accompanied by a clerk and the cook who walked ahead of us.
He took me straight to the upper floor, pointed at my companion's room,
and said, 'Open this door and see for yourself.'
I saw it all. I knocked at the
door. No reply! I knocked heavily so as to make the very walls shake. The
door was opened. I saw a prostitute inside. I asked her to leave the house,
never to return.
To the companion I said, 'From
this moment I cease to have anything to do with you. I have been thoroughly
deceived and have made a fool of myself. That is how you have requited
my trust in you?'
Instead of coming to his senses,
he threatened to expose me.
'I have nothing to conceal,'
said I. 'Expose whatever I may have done. But you must leave me this moment.'
This made him worse. There was
no help for it. So I said to the clerk standing downstairs: 'Please go
and inform the police superintendent, with my compliments, that a person
living with me has misbehaved himself. I do not want to keep him in my
house, but he refuses to leave. I shall be much obliged if police help
can be sent me.'
This showed him that I was in
earnest. His guilt unnerved him. He apologized to me, entreated me not
to inform the police, and agreed to leave the house immediately, which
The incident came as a timely
warning in my life. Only now could I see clearly how thoroughly I had been
beguiled by this evil genius. In harbouring him I had chosen a bad means
for a good end. I had expected to 'gather figs of [=from] thistles'. I
had known that the companion was a bad character, and yet I believed in
his faithfulness to me. In the attempt to reform him I was near ruining
myself. I had disregarded the warnings of kind friends. Infatuation had
completely blinded me.
But for the new cook, I should
never have discovered the truth, and being under the influence of the companion,
I should probably have been unable to lead the life of detachment that
I then began. I should always have been wasting time on him. He had the
power to keep me in the dark and to mislead me.
But God came to the rescue as
before. My intentions were pure, and so I was saved in spite of my mistakes,
and this early experience thoroughly forewarned me for the future.
The cook had been almost a messenger
sent from Heaven. He did not know cooking, and as a cook he could not have
remained at my place. But no one else could have opened my eyes. This was
not the first time, as I subsequently learnt, that the woman had been brought
into my house. She had come often before, but no one had the courage of
this cook. For everyone knew how blindly I trusted the companion. The cook
had, as it were, been sent to me just to do this service, for he begged
leave of me that very moment.
'I cannot stay in your house,'
he said, 'You are so easily misled. This is no place for me.'
I let him go.
I now discovered that the man
who had poisoned my ears against the clerk was no other than this companion.
I tried very hard to make amends to the clerk for the injustice I had done
him. It has, however, been my eternal regret that I could never satisfy
him fully. Howsoever you may repair it, a rift is a rift.