Tribute to Ann Proyect
I just returned from Sullivan County in upstate NY. My 80 year old
mother was the guest of honor last night at a dinner of over 100 people
organized by the local reform synagogue she belongs to. She has been a tireless
worker on behalf of that organization and many other local causes as well. After
dinner, people took the podium and paid tribute to her, myself included.
Reform Judaism is about 200 years old. It got started in Germany, where
progressive-minded Jews felt the need to introduce Enlightenment values to a
religion that had become marked by empty rituals. Unlike Orthodox Judaism, men
and women sit together in the same room for reform services, which are conducted
in English or whichever local language. (Orthodox Jewish men say a prayer every
day thanking god that they were not born a woman.) In Israel today, the
rightwing settler element that forms the hard-core base of the Likud government
is exclusively Orthodox. In addition to seeking to imposing apartheid-like
conditions on Palestinians, they also seek to remove official status from Reform
Judaism.
At our table were seated two of Sullivan County's most famous victims of
irrational drug laws. One was Mildred Kaits, about the same age as my mom, who
was arrested by local police in the 1980s when she was found growing marijuana
for her son, who had been suffering from Multiple Sclerosis. Her case gained
nation-wide attention and she spoke frequently on television talk shows with her
son. In keeping with other moves by the Bush administration to turn back the
clock, the US Supreme Court just declared against medical marijuana.
The other victim was my cousin Joel Proyect, who was arrested for
growing marijuana at his secluded mountain-top home that he built with his own
hands. Known as the "hippy lawyer," he was written up in the NY Times
and many other newspapers as the quintessential victim of a stupid law. Not only
had he never been arrested before, his neighbors and friends considered him a
model citizen. He was actually president of the local bar association when he
was arrested. Since he had grown something like 20 plants over the amount geared
to a lighter sentence, he faced a mandatory minimum sentence of five years and
would end up serving four. I used to visit him in the slammer in Connecticut and
Pennsylvania. The state was not satisfied with locking him up. They also sought
to seize his home and prevent him from ever practicing law again. Thankfully, he
beat them back and is now back at home defending people once again. The dinner
was the first time that Joel and Mildred met each other in person, an
appropriate setting.
My mother is well known in the community not only for her civic service,
but for a weekly column called "Ann Proyect Says" that she writes for
a local newspaper. My mother inherited the column from a woman named Eleanor
Harris, whose tribute to my mother (see below) was included along with other
tributes in a commemorative booklet handed out at the dinner. In this column she
rewards friends and punishes enemies, just like I do on Internet mailing lists.
Like me (or me like her, to be more accurate), she sometimes confuses the two in
the heat of the moment.
I was the next to last person to speak, just before my mom. Everybody in
the audience knew I was some kind of leftist, since my mom had described my
exploits many times in her column. The emcee described me somewhat inaccurately
as a "Trotskyite" when he introduced me. He had my web page in front
of him, whose quote from Max Horkheimer was used earlier in the evening to
describe my mom's often unappreciated efforts, which were at last getting their
proper due:
"a revolutionary career does not lead to banquets and
honorary titles, interesting research and professorial
wages. It leads to misery, disgrace, ingratitude, prison and a voyage
into the unknown, illuminated by only an almost superhuman belief."
In my remarks, I said the same thing I had said many times before when
people asked me how I became a radical. Were my parents on the left? I said
that my mom was a big influence on me, even though she never was in the CP or
was ideological by any stretch of the imagination. Here were two anecdotes that
illustrated the kind of direction I received from her.
There was a saloon in our small village that was filled with black
people almost every night of the week in the 1950s. Driving past one night, I
asked my mother why blacks spent seemed to spend all their time and money in a
bar (Jews looked down on anybody who drank.) She replied that the bar was not
necessarily a place to get drunk. It served as a social center for blacks who
because of poverty and racism could not afford to buy a house. If you do not
have a house, it is difficult to have company. That cleared things up for me,
without having to read Gunnar Myrdal.
On another occasion, I had returned home from school--it must have been
when I was 9 or 10 years old--to discover my mother at her sewing machine
working on the costume of a female impersonator who was the star attraction of
something called the Jewel Box Revue that performed every summer in a local
nightclub. This man, who had all the mannerisms of a "queen", was
clearly relaxed in my mother's company. She made every effort to treat him as
just another guest or fellow human being and I, following her cue, did so as
well. Without reading gay liberation literature (there was none at the time), my
mother had clearly understood the need to treat everybody on the basis of who
they are as individuals rather than as members of a group.
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To Whom It May Concern:
Ann Proyect and I matured together. She went on to embrace the spiritual
and enriching life of Judaism?. I went on to embrace other affairs, not the best
of which was spiritual. This doesn‘t say much about my character but it sure
says a lot about synthetic hormones.
But this is about Ann, not about me.
When I met Ann in 1949, the one thing we had in common, aside from our
respective two Sons and one husband, and our penchant for clean bathrooms, was
our ability to get things done for our community, all of which our husbands
encouraged as it gave them time to play poker.
Our community then was primarily Jewish and there was no need to remind
anyone of his heritage and need to keep it alive. Ann turned her efforts to
implementing organized sports for the children of our community. Little League
came into being, as did the Boy Scouts, ball teams, ice skating, all of which
before Ann were non-existent. She truly brought the community together.
Her outspokenness soon became a gift of eloquence, and, singlehandedly,
at several hotels in one night, through her persuasiveness and warmth, raised
$800. 00 for the cause of the polio vaccine which, that summer, was distributed
free to every person in Sullivan County.
Her own personal tragedy, so heartbreaking, which could have been a
life-long drain on her life was endured stoically through her faith in religion.
It was this faith, this strong tie to Judaism, that saved her sanity and created
this spokeswoman for the cause of keeping Judaism alive in a world today where
materialism is rapidly replacing spiritualism.
Ah, yes, Ann and I can no longer boast of firm, young flesh, or the
merit of jitterbugging over the Cha-Cha, but I can boast of Ann Proyect about
whom it can truly be said, "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her
infinite variety... " for Ann ‘s active and ever young mind is keeping
alive the spirit and meaning of the Jewish faith.
Sincerely, Eleanor Harris
(This letter came to us from sunny Miami, Florida where Eleanor Harris
now resides)