...Much is heard in the world about unhappy love, and we all know what this means: the lovers are presented from realizing their union, the causes being many and various. There exists another kind of unhappy love...the unhappiness of this love does not come from the inability of the lovers to realize their union, but from their inability to understand one another. This grief is infinitely more profound than that of which men commonly speak, since it strike at the very heart of love and wounds for an eternity. 164
Who grasps this contradiction of sorrow: not to reveal oneself is the death of love, to reveal oneself is the death of the beloved! The minds of men so often yearn for might and power, and their thoughts are constantly being drawn to such things, as if by their attainment all mysteries would be resolved. Hence they do not even dream that there is sorrow in heaven as well as joy, the deep grief of having to deny him precisely because he is the beloved. 168
For this is the unfathomable nature of love, that it desires equality with the beloved, not in jest merely, but in earnest and truth. 168