Raimundo Narciso
Lisbon, 2018-01-16
The only places of conviviality for men were the taverns where wine was served. The men in our family were not frequenters of the taverns. My father Manuel went to a tertulia (discussion group) of three or four friends, who would meet at night in the pharmacy with their friend, the pharmacist.
The women occupied themselves with domestic life and attended church, many of them once, twice or three times a day.
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Linha de raparigas, Vilar, about 1956. Left to right: 4. Maria do Carmo (Micá); 7. Teresa Nobre Santos; 8. Helena Maria Narciso. |
In addition to these Sunday promenades after Mass, in the summer there were the celebrations of the religious festivals of Vilar and nearby villages. An orchestra played in the bandstand: waltzes, tangos, viras, and "slow dances" and the young along with the less young danced or just watched.
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Left: Raimundo; Center: sister Helena |
Looks exchanged, a few words exchanged, one or another dance, some groping at the religious party ball and the way was open for the courtship. At this point the young maiden's love-seeker went to the girl's father and asked for her hand. The father would assess the situation — whether the boy was fit to be his daughter's husband, whether he had land — and if he gave his consent, the relationship would move to the next stage: the window.
The girl at the window of her house and the boy on the street. After a probationary period and if the signs are promising, the courtship continues at the door. The girl inside the door and the boy outside. And then inside the house with the mother close by in her chair to freeze any sinful thoughts and ensure the good behavior of the boyfriend.
Within 15 or 20 years all this had changed.
Harvesting the grapes to be transformed into wine in the various mills of the village, which took place in September and October, was the moment of greatest labor, agitation and alteration of the routine. Many farm laborers came from the poorer regions of the country to the great bustle of harvest. They lived poorly, in improper places provided by the owners of the vineyards who employed them during this period.
Manuel's relationship was good with all the brothers and sisters. The longest and closest was between Manuel and his sister Maria da Cruz; they visited each other frequently. She lived 10km north of Vilar in Ermejeira, and every now and then she would spend a day or two at our house. In the winter, around the brazier, at night, my sister and I would tell stories of enchantment, stories of Vilar's youth. Another very close relationship was between Manuel and his brother Francisco and his nephews Diniz and Francisco and their nieces Alice, Magdalena and Luzia, a little younger than Uncle Manuel. A good relationship despite very opposite political ideas. They liked to discuss politics and the developments of World War II.
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PIDE photo |
In 1972 several agents of the PIDE invaded the house of my parents, in Vilar. Manuel had already died a few months before. My mother lived alone and very sad, unaware of her son and daughter in France. She was frightened, the PIDE agents turned the house upside down and then made her sign some papers. Then the neighbors frightened her even more by telling her that it was surely not the police but criminals and the papers she signed would say that she had sold them the land and the house!? My mother, with ingenuity and a lot of courage went to Lisbon to PIDE headquarters to make sure and demand explanations!
Everything is written in detail in the book I published in 2000, ARA - Armed Revolutionary Action.