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person to the very end. She died with quality and dignity. The
nurses said, “You can come to know a lot about a person when they're
terminally ill.” All the nurses would say how extraordinary she was.
This was important for her, by the way. It was very important for
her to maintain a certain kind of control, and not let even pain
interfere. She was sensitive to the needs of other people up to the
Dr. You mentioned that she told your son and your daughter what
kind of memorial service she wished, and you carried that out. Could
you tell us a little bit about the memorial service?
I'll tell you about the funeral first. She didn't want a
funeral in church; she just wanted a few friends to go to the
cemetery. She named who she wanted at the cemetary. She wanted a
simple service at the cemetery rather than any kind of elaborate
thing in church. And she wanted a memorial service subsequent to the
burial. She stated those who she wanted to talk. She was very
specific as to each person. My son spoke for the family. Mr.
[James] Jim Dumpson, who is on our board at Northside, spoke for
Northside. David Barry, who died within six months after Mamie's
death, spoke for her work in the [New York] City Mission Society, and
on related social services. [Richard] Dick Cooper, who was formerly
president of the New York Public Library, on the board of which he
served for quite a while, spoke from that perspective of her role as
a board member and beyond. We all felt that it met Mamie's desire.
It was at Riverside Church. That was the only thing that was
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