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in terms of her relationship with him. She is clearly a very strong
woman. In fact, she's so strong that she's mad as hell now that at
81, she doesn't have all over the physical energy, you know, drive that
she had at 60 or 50 or 40.
No, I think my mother's motivation, in terms of the decision --
and it was her decision, to break the marriage --was, she saw, and
rightly so, that these two people, each strong, each, you know,
bull-headed and single-minded, really couldn't make it.
And by the way, she confesses to my sister and to me that
he was the only man she ever loved. But that was not going to be the
basis upon which she was going to run her life, that she loved him.
She remarried, and that, of course, was not at all --
all her remarriage did, as far as my sister and I can see, was to point
up to her that Arthur -- Arthur Clark was the one man in her life.
Because she talked more about him, after she married, than
she did before.
And by the way, she never disparaged him, while we were
kids growing up.
Let me give you an example. She always held him up to me as
a model of intellectual integrity, intelligence. She said, “You know,
your father was a brilliant man.” And this was part of the motivation,
you know -- that I had to achieve in school.
And by the way, I think she was right, because his letters were
-- aside from revealing a bullheadedness and dogmatism -- the last
correspondence I had with this man (and we'll now stop talking
about him, after telling youthis) was when I wrote to him and told him
that I was going to get married. And I was, you know, very happy, because
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