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“This income is ours,” or should he dole it out to her, or should he give her an allowance, or should everything that he had be hers. There were questions as to whether she earned her keep as housekeeper. All those questions were much discussed and debated by young women.

There was also a kind of New England pride in me. Also I wasn't very anxious to get married, to tell the truth. I was very reluctant to marry. I was no longer a child. I was a grown women by the time I married, a little older than the average marriage age. I just hadn't wanted to marry. I liked life better in single harness. The older I grew the less was the likelihood that I would marry. Young girls marry at eighteen to twenty-two or so and it just doesn't much matter whom they marry. They really, at that age, marry the first person they see that gives them a thrill. That's that. It's over. They accept the situation. That's the way it is. Having passed over that period without fatal commitments, for one reason or another, I was on the whole rather anxious not to marry.

When I married, Pauline Goldmark said to me, “Oh, Frances, why did you marry? oh dear, you were such a promising person. Why did you marry?” She mourned and felt that I would be more of a loss to the social work movement and the Consumer's League.

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