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“This income is ours,” or should he dole it out to her, or
should he give her an allowance, or should everything that
he had be hers. There were questions as to whether she
earned her keep as housekeeper. All those questions were
much discussed and debated by young women.
There was also a kind of New England pride in me.
Also I wasn't very anxious to get married, to tell the truth.
I was very reluctant to marry. I was no longer a child.
I was a grown women by the time I married, a little older
than the average marriage age. I just hadn't wanted to
marry. I liked life better in single harness. The older
I grew the less was the likelihood that I would marry. Young
girls marry at eighteen to twenty-two or so and it just doesn't
much matter whom they marry. They really, at that age,
marry the first person they see that gives them a thrill.
That's that. It's over. They accept the situation. That's
the way it is. Having passed over that period without fatal
commitments, for one reason or another, I was on the whole
rather anxious not to marry.
When I married, Pauline Goldmark said to me, “Oh,
Frances, why did you marry? oh dear, you were such a
promising person. Why did you marry?” She mourned and
felt that I would be more of a loss to the social work movement
and the Consumer's League.
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