FWP:
This is another of a surprisingly large and coherent body of verses that are organized around the idea that loss and despair should be seen as a twisted sort of triumph. The underlying notion is that one should never be indebted, or borrow things, or humiliate onself before a giver or lender. Rather than that, one should stick with what one already has, and stubbornly insist on preferring it-- so that a despair that is one's own is better than a derivative success acquired through self-abasement before 'Effectiveness'. For more on this line of thought, see {9,1}.
But then, this all sounds remarkably like a rationalization. What it really amounts to, after all, is a kind of sour-grapes admission of eternal defeat and despair, and the impossibility of changing them. The use of gavaaraa with its wide range of meanings, both active and passive, both grim ('swallowing, putting up with') and favorable ('agreeable, pleasant'), encourages us to reflect on such possibilities (see the definition above).
Ultimately, the lover no doubt means it both ways at once.
It's terrible to have to keep 'swallowing' one's suffering-- there's no getting
around it. Yet the lover's unshakable stubbornness and determination
are also, as always, sources of pride. He alone can mediate between those
two wild abstractions, 'Grief of Eternal Hopelessness' (or 'Eternal Grief
of Hopelessness', if we read one i.zaafat slightly differently)
on the one hand, and 'Effectiveness' on the other. Isn't that a more thrilling
and lofty concern than mere anxiety over, say, how to pay the rent? (After
all, as we saw so clearly in {20,7}, there
are no good alternatives-- the only choice is 'grief of passion' versus 'grief
of everydayness/livelihood'.)
Nazm:
The poet makes manifest that his grief is a friend. May despair and hopelessness alone remain allotted to me! May the Lord not bring to pass the humiliation and disgrace to my lament, that would bring it effectiveness and fulfill my hopes. (91)
== Nazm page 91